THE 7 LIMITATIONS OF BEAUTY

No doubt a major percentage of the decisions for love in our generation is based upon external beauty. By beauty we also mean handsomeness for the male counterparts too. A cursory look at the state of true love in our generation will reveal the fact that this beauty based approach to love isn’t working at all. Continue reading

FIRST AID LOVERS

First aid love? This is a kind of relationship that is based entirely on the idea of rescue. Often when our relationships don’t work, we are quick to hop into any other relationship that will offer us temporary and immediate relief without processing the events of our previous relationship thoroughly. Such relationships end up poorly, owing to the fact that they weren’t started intentionally. Continue reading

THE RIGHT TIME TO LOVE

If love is to work, timing is everything. One ancient leader postulated that there is a time to everything including, a time to love. If there is therefore such a thing as the right time to love, there must be a wrong time to do so. Being an analyst of failed and successful relationships over the years, I must confess that many failed relationships were simply a product of wrong timing. Doing the right thing,at the wrong time, still makes it the wrong thing. And doing the wrong thing at the right time also makes it wrong. For us to yield productive results, the right things must be done at the right time. Continue reading

HOW TO HANDLE ONE-SIDED LOVE

One of the most complex love equations there is, is WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. I call this one-sided love. The corollary is when you aren’t in love with the one who is in love with you. Millions are faced with this scenario day in day out. We want to attempt to deal with the issue today. Continue reading

EMOTIONAL SELF DEFENSE 101

Your heart is too delicate to be unprotected. In an earlier article, I spoke about guarding your heart with all diligence. I am convinced that many are wondering how something so intangible can be consciously protected. The art of emotional self defense must be perfected because there aren’t a lot of people around that you can trust with your heart. As a matter of fact there are some for whom heartbreak is a hobby. Continue reading

SO YOU CALL THAT A KISS?

A kiss? Well kisses are and have always been a means of expressing affection in diverse cultures. Before someone thinks I am about to give a tutorial on the art and science of kissing, let me clarify myself. I want to talk today about the KISS OF BETRAYAL. How to handle affectionate betrayals in love. Nothing is as painful and problematic as finding out someone you genuinely loved has betrayed you. Continue reading

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LOVER (2)

Change is inevitable in love and those that will make love work must be masters of the art of change. Yesterday, we established that to handle predetermined changes you have to accept them. To handle prejudicial changes, you have to renounce them and to handle principle centered changes, you have to assert them. Today we intend to focus on how to implement changes practically in your love life. Continue reading

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LOVER

Writting the word text on blackboardChange my lover? How did you know, Deji, that is what I have been wanting to do for a long time? I can almost hear somebody scream for joy at the prospect of replacing their lover. However, that isn’t what we are considering today, at least not just yet. The complex love equation we intend to deal with today is actually the challenge of change in our love relationships. To me, change, the change of either ourselves or our partners is the biggest challenge we might have to deal with in our relationships. Continue reading

WHEN NOT IN LOVE ANYMORE, DO THESE

Love is exhaustible. This is one of the greatest mysteries of life. Someone we profess to love so dearly can someday turn out to mean nothing to us at all. The flourishing divorce courts of our day are striking testimonies to this fact. This has made me attend weddings with mixed feelings, not knowing what the outcome of such conjugal celebrations will be a few years down the road. Continue reading