It is no longer news to acknowledge that fifty percent of most marriages will end in divorce. On the African continent, where statistical incompetence has been our undoing, the figures may even be higher. This does not include the millions who are enduring the dissatisfaction of their union and holding on due to religious or societal pressures. Most married women even confess to holding on to their dead marriages only to protect the interest of their children. Continue reading
Falling in love may be easy, but making love work is hard work. This work element in love must never be underestimated. Love is not for the lazy. I am convinced that one major reason for failures in the love enterprise is because many are unwilling to do the required work it takes to make their love work. What is love’s ultimate challenge? It is managing complexity. We all love happily ever after fairy tales, but such love tales for instance, doesn’t highlight the various complex factors one will need to deal with, in order for the fairy tale to be glamorously successful. Love isn’t just about managing each other only, it is about managing complexity.As the relationship grows, several other layers of complex responsibilities are added to it. Continue reading
The fact is that over 50% of marriages will end up in an accident of some kind. This does not include the overwhelming number of couples who are suffering in silence and whose conditions have eluded the watchful eyes of marriage counselors as well as statisticians. These accidents could take the form of divorce, an affair, loss of marital vitality, or physical abuse to mention but a few. How can you make sure that your love life is among the top 50% who are enjoying their marriages? Continue reading
Until you know who you are,you can’t know who you need.
- The purpose of your past is to educate your future.
- Great marriages grow on the soil of great friendships.
- I am an advocate of long friendships,short courtships and early marriages.
- Never, ever commit to lust, because lust will never last.
- Character is consistent behavior,over an extensive period of time.
- The fact that feelings exist,doesn’t mean the feelings will persist. Take time to be sure.
- The stingy brand of love is an aberration and a cosmic anomaly.
- Making a love commitment to a person who lacks contentment will leave you confounded.
- A great marriage isn’t necessarily about having everything,it is about having each other.
- Your partner’s silence doesn’t always mean consent,in fact it might be a sign of dissent.
For correction to be effective,it must be private and not public.
THE GREATEST IS LOVE
Many people desire companionship but few know how to position themselves strategically for companionship. It is one thing to have a desire, it is another thing entirely for us to fulfill the criteria for those desires to come to pass. Except for those born with an inherent gift of celibacy, every human being desires to be united in love someday with someone of like minds, unfortunately this may not be everyone’s experience. Today I want to consider some ways by which many position themselves unknowingly for life long singleness. Continue reading
All humans are social creatures by design. From the point at which the creator remarked that “it is not good for man to be alone”,we have woken up to our inherent need for companionship. Due to relationship disappointments at times,we may try to deny this need externally, but the gnawing void and loneliness internally, persistently reminds us that we were made for relationship with one another. Continue reading
True love is first evolutionary, before it is revolutionary. Revolutionary love is the kind that takes your world by storm, sweeps you off your feet and turns your world right side up or upside down. When most of us claim we are looking for love, this romantic elixir is what we are yearning for. The truth however is that even if you find revolutionary love,it seldom lasts because it isn’t practically sustainable. What most of us fail to realize is that, the Hollywood directors, actors and romantic writers who have so publicized revolutionary love,won’t be struggling with their relationships, if they really understood what love was about. Continue reading
We live in a generation that admires fast things. Fast food, fast cars, and unfortunately some believe in fast love. The truth however is that the process of love can not be hurried. Those who do so are often scarred permanently by the inaccuracy of the love choices made. This is why love must be patient and not urgent. It is not uncommon to see a person who met you yesterday, asks you out today and wants to marry you tomorrow. No matter how persuasive such crash lovers are, we must not be coerced into rushing into any love scenario without taking adequate time to confirm the accuracy of our choice. Continue reading
No one needs to be a nuclear scientist to discover that, life presents both multiple opportunities and choices for love. Those who erroneously believe that true love only comes once in a lifetime are missing the point. No matter how badly you have failed at your earlier attempts in love, I am persuaded that the creator has someone for you among the over 7billion people on the earth. Please I encourage you not to pessimistically give up on the idea of finding your true love in life. Continue reading
One of the most complex love equations there is, is WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. I call this one-sided love. The corollary is when you aren’t in love with the one who is in love with you. Millions are faced with this scenario day in day out. We want to attempt to deal with the issue today. Continue reading