THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (7): I LOVE YOU BUT TERMS AND CONDITIONS APPLY.

Today, we come to the essence of our discussion over the last few weeks. We have isolated the various factors that won’t guarantee relationship success. We have dealt with the kind of relationships that are worth doing without. Today, we begin to deal with the knots and bolts of how to break a relationship honorably, should you ever need to do so.The first issue to deal with, if you are going to break a relationship honorably and fairly is to revisit how you started it. In most cases,how a relationship starts will always determine how it ends. If the foundation of a thing is faulty it will long affect the sustainability of that thing. This is why in dealing with relationship problems in counseling, I often ask the couple to do what we call at Love Dynamics Global, a GENESIS ANALYSIS of the relationship. Continue reading

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THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (8): 5 THINGS THAT LOVEMAKING MEANS TO A WOMAN.

It is true that men and women are sexual creatures. However, their motives and meanings for sex are as divergent as the day and the night. The biggest mistake a man can therefore make is to assume that she is into sex for the same reason he is into it. These contrasting objectives where sex is concerned for both sexes is what makes sexual fulfillment an elusive mystery for many. Continue reading

THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (10): 4 VITAL SIGNS OF DYING LOVE

UNDYING-LOVEYesterday, we began to explore what a love x-ray would look like, as we shared some strategic questions that will help you measure the validity of your relationship before giving up on it. We established that we all must learn how to ask positional, oppositional or confrontational and operational questions of ourselves as well as our partners before shutting the door of love on them.Today, we want to go a little bit deeper on the subject of love x-rays as we consider the vital signs of a dying relationship. When conducting any test, knowing what to look out for is as important as knowing what to do. In other words, after knowing how to perform a love x-ray the next most important thing is to know how to accurately interpret the results of the test. It is the accurate interpretation of the results that fuels qualitative decision making. Continue reading

4 IDEAS THAT WILL RUIN YOUR CHANCES OF FINDING A LOVER

find loveSomeone interestingly said that ideas rule the world. Ideas do not only rule the world it can determine our chances in love. Many are chronically single today because they subscribe to lethal ideas that has practically ruined their chances of finding a lover. Today we want to identify and isolate these ideas in other to boost our chances in love. Continue reading

HOW TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE WHO IS CHEATING ON YOU

21-marriedmenWe all subconsciously long for exclusivity in love,but realistically not everyone of us will enjoy that privilege. This isn’t a curse but a fact based upon fallen human nature. It is true that we can minimize the chances of being cheated upon by choosing lovers who are of stellar integrity, but what happens to those who find out that someone they genuinely love has betrayed them? This is the essence of today’s article. There are five distinct phases everyone who is being cheated upon will go through. Let’s deal with them. Continue reading

WHY COUPLES CLASH

most-common-problems-couples-face-in-marriageConflicts are inevitable in every intimate relationship. Intimacy in itself suggests a rubbing together in different areas of the relationship. Unfortunately the heat and friction generated by intimacy can sometimes lead to adverse consequences, regarding the longevity of the relationship. The first step in conflict resolution is to understand the source and nature of the particular conflict you are facing, this will greatly enhance your ability to overcome it. The following are four major conflicts you might have to deal with in your love sojourn on earth. Continue reading

5 WAYS TO HANDLE YOUR INLAWS IN LOVE

may12-pg26The appreciation of in laws is the beginning of wisdom for any long term relationship. In laws can make the difference between the life and death of your marriage or relationship. In law politics is one of the mandatory courses that I teach couples when I conduct premarital counseling for young couples. The reason is because it doesn’t matter how much you love your partner,if in laws are not well managed,the chances of that love working out are definitely slim. In laws can make the difference between a relationship heaven or hell. Just as the immediate environment of a plant determines it’s longevity, the atmosphere created by in laws can impact your relationship heavily. Here are some keys… Continue reading

3 WAYS TO INSURE YOUR LOVE LIFE

InsureYourLoveLogoLove for me is not enough. If you have been around a while, you can testify that a person‘s love for you is not all it takes for a relationship to work. The irony of love is that some of the people who we claim to love the most may not necessarily be the ones we end up with in life. I am talking today about how to insure your love life. The essence of insurance is assurance. Is your love life insured? Is the love that person claims to have for you insured? Love is a very risky business. Continue reading

HOW TO COMPLICATE YOUR LOVE LIFE

Love-is-Complicated_7522-lLove is complex but it is not complicated. The more complicated our love lives are,the less we tend to enjoy it. Complicated love is however not an accident,there are certain things most of us do,consciously or unconsciously to complicate each others lives. Such vices should be avoided at all cost. The essence of having a relationship is rest of mind and peace of mind. If your relationship is not guaranteeing them both,I sincerely question the validity of its continued existence. Continue reading