THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (4): HOW TO KEEP YOUR LADY

It is one thing to have a lady. It is something else entirely to keep her. The longer you live, you will discover that keeping what you have is by far more difficult than its acquisition. Though commitment comes more naturally for a woman than it does for a man, the men who take a woman’s commitment for granted are soon shocked to realize that she could be seized from his grasp never to return again. Today we turn to what a man needs to do to keep his woman. Continue reading

THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (9): 5 THINGS THAT LOVEMAKING MEANS TO A MAN.

Last week we established the fact that underestimating the role of sex in a man’s life can be the biggest mistake a woman can make. I want to assume that every reader knows that the safest context for sex is marriage. It might be more appropriate for me to title this article what lovemaking means to a husband. I also use the term lovemaking, not because I am of the opinion that having sex is making love, but I use the term as a bridge of understanding between myself and the popular culture of my day.It is crucial that we understand what lovemaking means to our partner because only then will we understand their sexual motivations. Continue reading

THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (10): 4 VITAL SIGNS OF DYING LOVE

UNDYING-LOVEYesterday, we began to explore what a love x-ray would look like, as we shared some strategic questions that will help you measure the validity of your relationship before giving up on it. We established that we all must learn how to ask positional, oppositional or confrontational and operational questions of ourselves as well as our partners before shutting the door of love on them.Today, we want to go a little bit deeper on the subject of love x-rays as we consider the vital signs of a dying relationship. When conducting any test, knowing what to look out for is as important as knowing what to do. In other words, after knowing how to perform a love x-ray the next most important thing is to know how to accurately interpret the results of the test. It is the accurate interpretation of the results that fuels qualitative decision making. Continue reading

THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (12): WHY MOST MEN ARE SCARED TO MARRY

87887258_oIt is a fact that the male gender are seldom as interested in getting married, as are their female counterparts. Most ladies are frustrated with the snail pace with which their male partners approach the subject of marriage. Most men even freak out under the pressure to settle down in marriage, some even break the relationship all together, if they can’t get rid of the marital pressure. Today we want to address some of the man‘s internal fears, in a bid to help ladies successfully speed up the marital process. Continue reading

LOVE ON POINT(20): 12 CLASSIC LOVE CONCEPTS YOU NEED TO KNOW

  1. Marriage is one thing that is best gotten right, the first time one attempts it.

  2. Should you attempt future relationships while harboring past hurts, such attempts are bound to fail.
  3. If you decide to get married without believing in the idea of marriage, it won’t work.
  4. Being divorced, one can not take up the job for two and not feel the pressure of it.
  5. Coping with divorce requires more hard work than it even takes to make a good marriage work.
  6. Divorce isn’t something you do just because you want it. It should only be embarked upon because you have to do it.
  7. The decision for divorce should be taken slowly and painstakingly, after exhausting every possible avenue of making your marriage work.
  8. When an adulterous marriage becomes a threat to your health and well being,it is logical to leave.
  9. We shouldn’t have to loose our lives in other to save our marriages.
  10. When our human relationships become a threat to our divine relationship,we ought to rethink them.
  11. More tragic than the annulment of a marriage, are those who choose to live in an internal state of divorce from their partners, while maintaining the external facade of a working marriage.
  12. If half of the effort expended on preparing for weddings is invested in preparing the couples for marriage psychologically and spiritually, most marriages will work.

THE GREATEST IS LOVE

Deji Olabode.

Love Dynamics Global.

Enthronement Assembly Lagos.

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5 DIVIDENDS OF DIVORCE

marriageDivorce has consequences. We have established the fact that there may be certain conditions that necessitates having a divorce. We also must be quick to acknowledge that such a decision should only be arrived at after the full implications of our actions has been duly considered. Today we focus on certain undeniable effects that divorce can have both on us and the ones we love. Continue reading

DIVORCE JUSTIFIED

divorce-malletI hate divorce. It is one of the most tragic experiences that can befall any marriage, particularly when it’s psychological impact on children are considered. However I have lived long enough to know that there are peculiar marital circumstances in which divorce is a credible solution. I know I will most likely be criticized by religious pundits for what I am going to say today, but religious correctness isn’t a higher priority to me than value for the individual. Continue reading

5 WAYS TO SET UP YOURSELF FOR DIVORCE

???It is no longer news to acknowledge that fifty percent of most marriages will end in divorce. On the African continent, where statistical incompetence has been our undoing, the figures may even be higher. This does not include the millions who are enduring the dissatisfaction of their union and holding on due to religious or societal pressures. Most married women even confess to holding on to their dead marriages only to protect the interest of their children. Continue reading

MUST LOVE BE CRAZY?

crazy-loveThe words “I AM CRAZY ABOUT YOU” seem to be one of the most effective compliments that a person can offer their lover but must love be crazy? I believe somewhere in our human consciousness we entertain the idea that a love that just doesn’t make sense is more impressive than a love that does. I have had ladies tell me that they turned down the love proposal of a guy because they felt they were already too close. This betrays a notion in all of us that love has got to be spectacular and outrageous for us to go along. Today I want to question this hidden notion in all of us. Continue reading

AWAKEN THE LOVER WITHIN YOU

love allFinding true love is everyone’s desire, but it isn’t everyone’s experience. One of the reasons why we fail in our future love roles is because we failed to develop competence with the love opportunities of the past. Particularly in romantic relationships, few are able to sustain their love for each other beyond the initial honeymoon phase because they assume that love is a feeling. My friend love is more than a feeling,love is a skill. The feelings of love may fade but it is the skill of love that remains with you. When those love skills are exercised consistently, the feeling of love can be recreated over and over again. This is the key to the success of long tenured relationships. One must however understand that the love skills you need in romantic relationships, must have been developed in your non romantic relationships. Continue reading