THE BEST OF LOVE DYNAMICS (4): HOW TO KEEP YOUR LADY

It is one thing to have a lady. It is something else entirely to keep her. The longer you live, you will discover that keeping what you have is by far more difficult than its acquisition. Though commitment comes more naturally for a woman than it does for a man, the men who take a woman’s commitment for granted are soon shocked to realize that she could be seized from his grasp never to return again. Today we turn to what a man needs to do to keep his woman. Continue reading

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5 DIVIDENDS OF DIVORCE

marriageDivorce has consequences. We have established the fact that there may be certain conditions that necessitates having a divorce. We also must be quick to acknowledge that such a decision should only be arrived at after the full implications of our actions has been duly considered. Today we focus on certain undeniable effects that divorce can have both on us and the ones we love. Continue reading

HOW TO KEEP YOUR LADY

imagesIt is one thing to have a lady. It is something else entirely to keep her. The longer you live, you will discover that keeping what you have is by far more difficult than its acquisition. Though commitment comes more naturally for a woman than it does for a man, the men who take a woman’s commitment for granted are soon shocked to realize that she could be seized from his grasp never to return again. Today we turn to what a man needs to do to keep his woman. Continue reading

LOVE ON POINT(8): 12 RADICAL IDEAS FOR CONTEMPORARY LOVERS.

1. For your love to live,your ego has to die.

2. It is wisdom to clarify the when of your marriage before beginning your courtship.

3. The primal solutions to sexual promiscuity are long friendships,short courtships and early marriages.

4. Condoms won’t protect you from heartbreak.

5. It is folly to value the protection of your genitals over the protection of your heart and mind.

6. Condoms won’t protect you from expiration.

7. Condoms won’t protect you from being replaced.

8. The violation of our personal consciences is what produces guilt,and guilt is the mother of low self esteem.

9. To succeed in love,you must have made abstinence a competence.

10. Abstinence can not be learned in marriage,it is better developed during courtship.

11. Humans are addicted to simplicity and averse to complexity

12. It is really difficult to please anybody who doesn’t know what pleases them.

THE GREATEST IS LOVE
Deji Olabode.
Love Dynamics Global.
Enthronement Assembly Lagos.
lovedynamix@gmail.com
@lovedynamix on twitter.
BBpin; 33023120

* Please note that all enquiries about speaking engagements and professional counseling should be sent by email to the above email address. Thanks.

* Also feel free to download our newly launched Love Dynamics app on blackberry app world. Simply click on the following link and download for free. http://appworld.blackberry.com/webstore/content/39425945

THE CONDOM CONUNDRUM

Sexual promiscuity is a global issue. The sexual revolution of the 1960s completely changed the moral landscape of humanity forever. The seed for the sexual chaos of today was aggressively and intentionally sown in those years. The outcome is the global explosion of pornography, divorce, rape and sexually related crimes. The religious institutions of our day has simply responded to this sexual onslaught by quoting what their respective sacred books said is unethical. Unfortunately this has not worked, since even the adherents of the various faiths are also caught up in these sexual vices.

The secular society on the other hand, is attempting to cure the ills of sexual promiscuity by promoting the widespread use of contraceptives like condoms and the pill. Those who see condoms as the panacea for all sexual ills are grossly underestimating the role of impulse and spontaneity in humans at the point of sexual intercourse. If religious, governmental and business institutions are confused as to how to deal with promiscuity, the onus rests solely with the individual to seek personal clarity on the merits and limits of the use of contraceptives vis a vis the development of responsible,sexually ethical behaviors. The following are five things that condoms will not protect you from.

  1. CONDOMS WON’T PROTECT YOU FROM HEARTBREAK. Have you ever heard of condoms for the heart? I doubt it. I often laugh when people are quick to pull out a condom before engaging in illegitimate sex,calling it protection. Health savvy as such actions may seem,they reveal a fundamental misplacement of priorities. They seem to me,to value the protection of their genitalia over the protection of their heart and minds, and that is unfortunate. One ancient writer speaks of guarding our hearts with all diligence,for out of it flows the issues of life. We must value the protection of our hearts and mind over our genitals.

  2. CONDOMS WON’T PROTECT YOU FROM EXPIRATION. Countless times I have had single ladies particularly confess the drastic change in attitude to them of most men after sex outside wedlock. Well I always have a hard time explaining to them,that their awe has expired in his eyes. Seldom do men regard with awe women that they have sexually conquered. One way to maintain that awe in courtship is by saving sex for marriage. So if you don’t want to expire fast,zip up.
  3. CONDOMS WON’T PROTECT YOU FROM BEING REPLACED. Nothing is as painful as seeing someone you were once sexually intimate with,in the sexual embrace of somebody else. The blatant truth is that anyone who is irresponsible enough to be sexually promiscuous with you,has automatically proven to you that they are likely to be irresponsible enough to be promiscuous with someone else. The only way to avoid such traumas is to choose not to be promiscuous at all.
  4. CONDOMS WON’T PROTECT YOU FROM THE GUILT. Promiscuity always leaves the bitter after taste of guilt on us all. It could be the guilt of an abortion or even the guilt of cheating on another, just to mention but a few. No one needs to be taught what is right or wrong. We all were born with an inbuilt ethical regulatory system called the conscience. The violation of our personal consciences is what produces guilt. That guilt is the mother of low self esteem in all humans.
  5. CONDOMS WON’T PROTECT YOU FROM JUDGEMENT. There is an undeniable judgment for living a sexually promiscuous life,except one changes their ways. This judgment could come in form of a shattered marriage,an unwanted pregnancy,a fatally complicated abortion, a sexually transmitted disease, just to mention but a few. None of us is smart enough to escape the consequences of our wrong actions except we genuinely turn a new leaf.

This is not to mention the various spiritual and financial complications that trail promiscuity. The bottom line is that we should be more concerned with protecting our entire life, than with the protection of our genitals. The surest way to protect your life is by living a sexually responsible life and by confining your sexual rendezvous to the institution of marriage. Anything else is bound to cause you pain sooner or later.

THE GREATEST IS LOVE
Deji Olabode.
Love Dynamics Global.
Enthronement Assembly Lagos.
lovedynamix@gmail.com
@lovedynamix on twitter.
BBpin; 33023120

* Please note that all enquiries about speaking engagements and professional counseling should be sent by email to the above email address. Thanks.

* Also feel free to download our newly launched Love Dynamics app on blackberry app world. Simply click on the following link and download for free. http://appworld.blackberry.com/webstore/content/39425945

5 THINGS THAT LOVEMAKING MEANS TO A MAN

imagesLast week we established the fact that underestimating the role of sex in a man’s life can be the biggest mistake a woman can make. I want to assume that every reader knows that the safest context for sex is marriage. It might be more appropriate for me to title this article what lovemaking means to a husband. I also use the term lovemaking, not because I am of the opinion that having sex is making love, but I use the term as a bridge of understanding between myself and the popular culture of my day. Continue reading

LOVER, KNOW YOUR RIGHTS.

Fundamental RightsMany lovers today tolerate a lot of junk in their relationships because they are ignorant of what their fundamental lover’s rights are. If you are ignorant of your rights as a lover, you are most likely to be cheated and abused. Worse still, a smart user can make you feel that your rights are a privilege. When a people are ignorant of their rights, injustices abound. Oh my heart breaks for the several millions who are being used and abused today in the name of love. Hopefully reading this today will empower you to stand and fight for what rightly belongs to you in love. Continue reading

SHOULD YOUR LOVER BE SHARED?

Today, I intend to deal with a subtle lowering of the standard of love that I am beginning to notice in my generation. This has to do with some individuals practice of sharing their love with multiple partners. This is another kind of relationship worth breaking. I call this kind of relationship DISTRIBUTIVE RELATIONSHIPS. Every once in a while you come across the love prospect who knowingly settles for a partner who is obviously involved with someone else. It is unimaginable that a person will knowingly share their lover with someone else. Continue reading